If I Knew Then What I Know Now.
Have you ever thought back to previous years of your life and wondered about what advice you would give yourself then if you had the opportunity? At the age of 24 now, looking back on my high school years, I would honestly give myself a few pieces of much needed advice on many things I did. For example, LIFE GOES ON. Being a teenage girl, everything matters: your complexion, makeup, hair, outfits, vehicle, status, boys, etc. Trust me. All of those things mattered to me way more than they should have. Sure, they still do matter to me to a certain extent, but there is a much bigger picture that is of much more importance. Character is number one! Everyone is unique in their own way, and I wish I could have embraced this more at the time. Most of the time then when something went wrong, I anticipated my world beginning to crumble. But look! Here I am 6 whole years later with so many bigger problems like earning money, finding my passion in a career, and not eating too many cookies because my metabolism is nothing like it used to be.
I also would have spent so much more time with my family. I wish I would have realized how precious time really is, and stayed in playing cribbage with my dad on some of those Friday nights or had coffee dates with my mom, rather than being obsessed with going to high school parties and pondering if my outfit was the best choice for the night. There is no one more loyal than family. I have lived 350 miles away from them for several years now, and I’d give anything to go back and spend more time around them!
One of the biggest things I have realized is how hard the “real” world actually is. I was constantly stressing about how slow time was going as I wanted to grow up and move out on my own. Can I please move back home now? That has to be socially acceptable right? I would gladly live in my parents’ basement and still have them pay all of the bills. Between the numerous meltdowns I frequently have now throughout the week, car troubles, homework overload, and having to plan and also cook my own dinners…I would THOROUGHLY enjoy moving back home. Unfortunately, I am an adult and at some point I have to get out there, take risks, and learn how to do all of these things on my own.
Having ventured out on my own now for several years, it’s easy to take a walk down memory lane and think about the ridiculous things into which I invested time, money, and emotions. However, I truly believe these were key factors of shaping me into the person I am today. I am proud of that person, and of how far I’ve come and I am also excited for where I have yet to go. But, I still do dream about having my parents pay my bills, and of them taking me on Disneyland vacations. You know, making my life a walk in the park! But this is just something I can look forward to when I have a family of my own.
So thanks Mom and Dad for watching me put myself through those ridiculous phases. I’m sure it was quite comical for you to observe.
By: Brenda Gurney